Here's why we think women activists should change their attitude of "wear what you like," and should ask the young people and media moghuls to tone down. Go slow, relax, you aren't proving anything by dressing provocatively. Okay? You find these girls so scantily clad on the streets and think whether it's fashion or a deliberate attempt to provoke. Look at it as a fashion moghul's attempt to degrade the female of the species. No, it's not just the streets, look anywhere: movies, television, print ads, hoardings, we don't realise how much raw sexual pull is being exerted by all these mediums on young minds, especially those of underprivileged males living alone in cities. Here's a rough list of all the titillation
Movies: item numbers: sheila ki jawani, choli ke peeche, whatever
Television ads: Deo ad in which man goes into a room and emerges with kiss marks all over, ad where a girl drags a boy into an inflated house and the house starts wobbling, whatever
Print: Open the supplement (glamour pages) and you find these celebrities all exposing their thighs, lingerie ads are another thing altogether
Hoardings: Well, too many, we lost count
Public functions: too many, we don't attend public functions, award nights, but do see pictures
So on and so forth...
And, we hold our heads and say "My God" all these? How and when did these happen? It's as if sex sex sex is everywhere and they are the only ones being deprived. A man's sexuality is such that he is easily aroused. No, don't misunderstand. A woman wants a man's sexuality to be more like her own. But, that's where you go wrong, honey. A man can't - deliberately and consciously - control his sexual urge, it's a natural thing. Even if he controls, it will slip up at times.
And slip-ups are where assault and rape happen. An illiterate man may see naked pictures but then may entice a 4-year old with offer of candy because he doesn't know the law and never reads the papers. All he knows is he wants to do it, with whoever it is in his power to entice as victim. That's how child rape happens.
Admit this. We are today a sex-oriented society. Sex used as a tool to bring in money for: products, services, favours, politics, even sex itself, and, now, sports, . But we are also a society that denies young people to mix and derive whatever pleasures can be received from companionship. So where does the desperate man go? To a brothel that's fifty kilometres away? He is too lazy to do that. He hunts for his victims in the backyard. Many of the rapes that happened recently in Bombay were involved minor girls and their neighbours. Read this story of a 13-year old girl raped by neighbours. And this about a 5-year old girl raped by her neighbour.
We rest our case.