tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5715537.post2073043673320801631..comments2024-02-23T12:49:59.960+05:30Comments on John P Matthew on Writing, Book Reviews, and the Writing Life!: The Discussion So Far on RapeAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12219760381898565039noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5715537.post-66225366719250226982009-06-28T17:01:38.650+05:302009-06-28T17:01:38.650+05:30Vallath,
I love your comment, because I love com...Vallath, <br /><br />I love your comment, because I love comments on my blog. <br /><br />But you have again misunderstood the very premise of my post. <br /><br /><br />"You also said, at least, understand a man's sexuality, and try to avoid the most obvious way of exciting his libidinous feelings", yes in the future when women are going to be the dominant sex, by all means dress as you want and let men and his sexuality be damned. But so far as men are the more powerful at least give him the benefit of the doubt and understand the way his brain and his loins function, that was my considered and, maybe, biased and chauvinistic view. In that case brand me an MCP and move on.<br /><br />I know I may lose many women friends and readers but I was trying to give voice to the feelings of many men who were unnecessarily provoked in the office and business environment by women who dressed in minis, stilettoes,plunging necklines, etc. I am talking of the formal environment of the office and not the disco. <br /><br />I guess these women were making a statement for boldness and forthrightness but all the negative feelings got conveyed. <br /><br />If men can dress conventionally and formally in the workplace why can't women, considering in the work place too men hold the reins of power. <br /><br />So, to sum it all, as long as men hold all the power in social interaction women should give his sexuality a wide berth by dressing acceptably and at least without provoking the animal in him. <br /><br />I have lived both in the Persian Gulf and India and I don't find any difference in men's or women's sexuality in both these countries. In fact, women in a Gulf country in which I lived had misused their power to rape a helpless Indian youth repeatedly,without his consent. He couldn't do anything for fear for his life and had to run away and work as a labourer. Your view of giving a carte blanche to women to dress as they wished without any restrictions is both flawed and meaningless and smacks, to my ossified senses, of lack of understanding and an already coloured view. <br /><br />JAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12219760381898565039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5715537.post-45892238135411907822009-06-25T18:12:23.202+05:302009-06-25T18:12:23.202+05:30I don't think you understand rape. If I unders...I don't think you understand rape. If I understand correctly, you're implying the scantily dressed women turn men on who needing an outlet rape the more modestly dressed, presumably weak women. <br /><br />You also said, <i>at least, understand a man's sexuality, and try to avoid the most obvious way of exciting his libidinous feelings.</i> which further proves that you think a woman's dressing (not necessarily the victim's) contributes to rape. <br /><br />Young boys, children, women in Saudi/Iran (where there is no scope for provocative dressing), boys in US (where most girls are dressed 'provocatively' by Indian standards) do all get raped. Rape is an act of perversion not committed by civilised men. The ability to control one's sexual urges is a mark of one's civility. <br /><br />Assuming what you are saying is true, if a man is so easily provoked by a woman skimpily dressed, then the blame still falls squarely on the man's shoulders for being unable to control himself. Absurdly enough, men nationwide would turn rapists after watching Western movies. Are you recommending censorship then? Do you see how absurd your logic is? <br /><br />Clothing is a personal choice which is what conservatives world over don't understand. You may not approve of other people's style and that's <b> your </b> personal choice. But it is unfair of others to force you to approve of their sense of dressing just as it is unfair for you to expect the world to dress by your standards.Vallathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04040425635498944265noreply@blogger.com